When we talk and refer to "NERVOUS SYSTEM DYSREGULATION" with our clients, we are most on target and in our scope of practice... no matter what our scope. Even including "relational repair" is appropriate, because we are all human beings and we are all in relationship. My hope is that we can use the categorization from the SE training for our education, and use our humanity with our clients.
Presence, a connection to our authentic expression,Freedom Of Expression, Genuine Caring, A Bridge To Our Authentic, Wild Selves, A Place Of Expanded Consciousness.
That is what most of us want in sexual connection.
But things can be confusing.
We aren't taught what healthy sexuality looks or feels like!
Often times, there are past sexual scripts and experiences that have created patterns in our bodies and in our behaviors. Those well-worn grooves make it hard to experience new pleasure pathways, new ways of connecting, and creative interactions.
A trauma is a place where it becomes impossible to remain connected in and to the present moment.
Trauma is a part of the human condition! Healing is also a part of the human condition, and we have the capacity to transform difficult experiences into a wellspring of personal and spiritual power.
Trauma occurs when there is a rupture in our boundary system and our capacity to metabolize an experience is compromised. While a birth experience or sexual encounter may not look traumatic from the outside, your experience of that event may have registered as traumatic in your system.
Trauma can look like incurable yeast infections, vaginismus, repetitive unhealthy or undesirable relationship patterns, infertility.
We don't have to go digging into the skeletons and unearthing all the details. No one wants to "dwell" on the past, and go over things they would have liked to heal and move on from long ago, but at times, our organism retrieves things for us to have another go at completion.
Why book a Trauma Healing or Somatic Experiencing Session?
- You want to have an orgasm or expand the type of orgasms that are possible for you.
- You want to stop experiencing pain or chronic infections.
- You haven’t felt the same since you gave birth, or had an abortion, or a miscarriage.
- You are having a memory of a repeated violation.
Although talking about sex or seeking help for it can seem intimidating, it is often the most direct route towards transformation and healing. Many of my clients have been in years of talk therapy and couples counseling, but without placing the body at the center of the experience, they have not been able to break certain patterns, have an orgasm, or ask for what they want in the moment. It’s the difference between peeling the layers of an onion, and going straight to the center, coring this onion and then letting the layers fall.
In this way of working, with the body as the locus and focus of experience, we understand that wisdom and understanding are the byproduct of freed-up energy, rather than an archaeological project to dig for.
Meaning arises out of a deeper capacity to feel, connect, and be present.
Past experiences and cultural messages can impact how and who we feel safe and interested in connecting to. Parsing out what is affecting our sexual choices as well as the sex we are available for isn’t easy to do alone.
“Trauma” itself is a heavy word. The opposite of trauma is resilience, wholeness, and freedom.
Trauma leaves residue that keeps us from experiencing pleasure, connection, and intimacy. Understanding this intellectually is different than offering our physiology an opportunity to “tie up loose ends” and learn new ways of resolving what has been left dangling or in a repetitive loop.
Often times, in order to have the capacity to honor your full sexual expression, there are past sexual scripts and experiences that have created patterns in our bodies. Those well-worn grooves make it hard to experience new pleasure pathways, new ways of connecting, and creative interactions.
As a mother, as an embodiment educator, and as someone who has been traveling a long road of trauma healing, I can attest to just how far we’ve come when it comes to understanding of the roots of trauma. What trauma is - what it does to the body/mind - how it manifests in our everyday lived experience - and what it needs for resolution - these have all been the subject of intense study both personally and professionally.
It’s my deep belief that all of the parenting books and strategies in the world are unhelpful to us as long as we have the remnants of trauma within us, keeping us from being able to inhabit our bodies fully and feel safe within them; and as long as we’re unable to truly inhabit our present moment experience. What we know about trauma is that it disconnects us from the body and it traps the mind. Through the lens of trauma we are often living “as if” threat were lurking around every corner, and until we can resolve this, we’ll struggle to make the changes in our parenting that we most wish to see.
It’s for this reason, and others, that I create the programs and communities that I do - to support women and mothers in their trauma resolution, self-understanding, and homecoming.
However, sometimes we want to be able to go deeper into our healing; and that’s where individual work with Somatic Experiencing can be profoundly life-changing.
What is Somatic Experiencing®
Somatic Experiencing® (SE) is a short-term body-based approach to the resolution and healing of trauma developed by Dr. Peter Levine. Peter’s early interest in animal studies and animal stress responses sparked curiosity about why it is that animals in the wild rarely experience trauma. SE based upon the observation that wild prey animals, though threatened routinely, are rarely traumatized. Animals in the wild utilize innate mechanisms to regulate and discharge the high levels of energy arousal associated with defensive survival behaviors. These mechanisms provide animals with a built-in ‘’immunity’’ to trauma that enables them to return to normal in the aftermath of highly ‘’charged’’ life-threatening experiences.
Growing scientific evidence indicates that the dynamics of traumatic stress and its symptoms have significant biological components. Developed by Dr. Peter Levine, author of Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma, Somatic Experiencing® (SE) is a powerful method for addressing the psychobiology of stress and trauma. Dr. Levine has studied and observed traumatic stress in humans and animals for over thirty years and has developed a deep understanding of human survival energy’s function.
This body-focused approach understands that traumatic stress symptoms are often expressions of incomplete or fixated lower brain functions of fight, flight, and freeze. SE helps people complete these responses and restore their inherent self-correcting, self-regulating mechanisms. Integrating lower psychomotor processes with higher brain processes of cognition and feeling creates a more flexible neurological system, and enhances a person’s capacity to enjoy a wide spectrum of human experience.
Somatic Experiencing® is appropriate for anyone working in the field of trauma: physical therapists, psychotherapists, physicians, psychologists, nurses, bodyworkers, psychiatrists, educators, occupational therapists, speech pathologists, social workers, martial artists, vocational counselors, and others.
I’m a somatic educator, mindfulness and mindful embodiment teacher (and anthropologist). I take a unique biopsychosocial approach to guiding women and mothers towards their own wisdom, strength, and vitality.
I’m committed to becoming the author of my own experience, and helping create an environment for my children in which they feel a sense of safety and a foundation within the container I provide, and a sense of curiosity to explore the world for themselves and find their own path.
Honestly, I’m a non-religious Taoist at heart; deeply guided by the teachings that help us release resistance and find more ease, flow, and deeply embodied joy in parenting and in life.