For so many, conflict can be triggering. Notably, if we had poor models for conflict, or if conflict for us comes with a great deal of fear - of loss of relationship or repercussions if we engage with it. This can cause us to fall into defensive stress responses when conflict comes up - so that, instead of engaging with another with confidence, we may shut down, fall into self doubt, or become overly aggressive. We don’t want to rid ourselves or the world of conflict. Conflict is a great teacher. It can promote self and mutual understanding. It tells about what we want and what others want and in what direction in life we want to move. Conflict is part of life, but to allow it to be a creative force, we first need to disentangle our ideas about conflict from our earlier experiences with it, and increase our tolerance for it and resilience in it.
I have a great opportunity coming up in November, 2019, to begin learning how we can learn a new experience of engaging with conflict. It’s the “How to Fight Better - Creating the Conflict Container”. To learn more about that workshop head here to learn more and to sign-up to receive notification when registration opens.
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