It's little wonder why we struggle to take responsibility for things (or to not feel overly responsible for everything!). Steeped in a blame culture that can wed us to the toxic shame experience, we often focus more on "who did it" and less on "how can we move forward together." This is true for us at the level of culture as much as at the level of interpersonal relationships (like with our partners and kids - not to mention ourselves!). We might wish to teach our kids about responsibility, but we'll struggle to do this in a blame culture that makes taking responsibility feel dangerous. We need to eradicate blame culture and make it safe for people to take responsibility in ways that don't shame them endlessly.
Mentioned in the podcast
3 Important Features of Healthy vs. Toxic Shame episode - listen here.
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