Welcome to the Bold as Love podcast! The podcast all about Liberation from our past through education, embodiment & awareness.

Hey mama, I’m Karine, your host of the (weekly) Bold as Love podcast. I’m a somatic educator, embodiment specialist, researcher, anthropologist, contemplative practices practitioner and teacher, and most of all I love to share ideas that help others realize just how much power they actually have to shape their own lives. And I hope you’ll find something empowering and perspective-shifting in these episodes for you!

This pod has been a long time in the making, I have to tell you. Maybe 43 years? Seriously, though, this is a podcast with a mission at heart to speak straight to the hearts of women and mothers who are curious and open and interested in new ideas and perspectives on motherhood and parenting.

If I manage to help another woman wake up just a little bit more to her own life, then I’m thankful.

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What are you coming home to? (And the most important relationship we can have)

What are you coming home to? (And the most important relationship we can have)

This episode is all about the way we relate to ourselves as the first relationship that matters most and the first relationship to determine how we relate to others.  The question is: how "at home" do you feel in your own skin, and how much trust do you find in relationship to yourself?  The truth is, due to the traumatic stress we continue to live with and all that is left unmetabolized in us - many of us have come to embody an attitude of harshness, criticism and judgment towards the things we don't like about ourselves.  But we stand little hope of positive change when - through our acts of self-aggression and self-betrayal - we continue to embody feelings of "not safe".  We can change this, and our self-awareness & embodiment practices are one powerful way to do this. 

Guilt: The Good & The Bad

Guilt: The Good & The Bad

Guilt can feel like a plague, especially for those of us who've learned to take on more responsibility for others' well-being than we can (or should) be responsible for.  Like other human experiences we can have, guilt contains both light and shadow, and both are worth exploring. Because, while excessive and unhelpful guilt can keep us imprisoned by the expectations of others, helpful guilt can be a sign post for us, showing us where our speech and behavior is out of alignment with what our hearts most want.  Until we can disentangle the experience of guilt from the unhelpful form it can take, however, we'll struggle to make use of helpful guilt as a powerful guide. 

Motherhood: A journey of Fear & Courage (Action of the Heart)

Motherhood: A journey of Fear & Courage (Action of the Heart)

The entire journey of motherhood is often a dance of fear and courage. Especially for those of us who deeply desire to parent differently than we were parented. Fear can keep us feeling stuck, while courage has forward momentum to it towards self-transformation. How do we face what it is we fear to face on the path to self-transformation? And what are the desires we hold in our hearts that can mobilize us powerfully with the courage (the action of the heart) towards a different future? And are we even in touch with that desire? (Are we allowed to be)?! When we fear our own fear, we can become immobilized and unable to take steps forward - we can get stuck in an experience of "no way out". In this episode, we explore what it means to connect with our innermost desires as the basis for the courage we need to unshackle ourselves from the prisons we often experience.

What are you tuned into?

What are you tuned into?

Our attention is always on something, whether that thing is something nourishing and uplifting for us, or if its depleting for us. We've each been shaped by our experiences and our social environments to pay attention to specific information from our environment - often information that just confirms beliefs we already hold - but when we begin to get curious (i.e. mindful) of where our attention goes we can begin making more conscious choices about what we consume from the world around us. Without realizing it, this is a path to liberation, because liberating our perception is to inhabit our power to shape our experiences. And that matters to me, personally, and as a mom.

Healthy Impulses & Knowing Beyond Knowing

Healthy Impulses & Knowing Beyond Knowing

Have you ever had the experience of being viscerally moved to do or to say something to someone - the impulse came like strong feeling in the body that was guiding you - but then the mind talked you out of it? The impulses we have don't always lead us to make healthy choices, but what about those healthy impulses that come from the body, and that are guiding us all the time?  We have an internal compass that we can access & pay attention to when we're present.  And the outcome of following those impulses can sometimes surprise us, as well as lending beauty, mystery and meaning to our experiences.  I have a story to share about this in this week's episode!

And in the End, What Matters?

And in the End, What Matters?

We spent, I kid you not, 8 + hours on Sunday doing one of those deep Spring cleanings that creates more chaos before order starts to set in. The following day, coming down from a work period in my office, my eyes meet the mess of a kitchen and dining room that looked like a flour-mill had exploded in it. My kids had taken the initiate to cook and bake for themselves on a day off from school.  Our first reaction in moments like that can be to spiral off in our frustration into a big reaction (as thoughts like "all that time I spent cleaning!" start to whirl inside your head.  But there's an element of our experience that makes it possible, instead of being sucked into the vortex of reactivity, to take in other information from the environment that can give us more perspective on the situation.  Like my children's flour-dusted faces beaming with pride! And, after all, this is about what, at the end of our lives matters most to us.  The question becomes how can we align with THAT in those moments, and not the mess?

Our fears, their freedom

Our fears, their freedom

I could fall into a wormhole of worry during my first pregnancy. But my wake up came one day when my husband said to me, “Honey, you know this isn’t over once the baby comes out, don’t you?” And it hit me like bricks.  He was right. If I couldn’t find a way to check runaway worry it would rule my days with my children. And more, I risked limiting them and their experience, and their spirit of exploration. I also risked passing onto them (unconsciously and unintentionally) the belief that the world is an unsafe place. Children need boundaries; they need to feel safe; but they also need to feel their sense of internally driven power, authenticity and confidence.  I often say parenting has been the most potent path for "waking up", and learning to not let my worry rule their experience has been one of the greatest lessons.  

On Blame Culture (and ditching it)

On Blame Culture (and ditching it)

It's little wonder why we struggle to take responsibility for things (or to not feel overly responsible for everything!).  Steeped in a blame culture that can wed us to the toxic shame experience, we often focus more on "who did it" and less on "how can we move forward together."  This is true for us at the level of culture as much as at the level of interpersonal relationships (like with our partners and kids - not to mention ourselves!). We might wish to teach our kids about responsibility, but we'll struggle to do this in a blame culture that makes taking responsibility feel dangerous. We need to eradicate blame culture and make it safe for people to take responsibility in ways that don't shame them endlessly.  

On the Power of Appreciation

On the Power of Appreciation

Want to blow your own mind? Want a resource in your toolkit for anxiety? Appreciation is a practice. Your heart wants to be free to love and appreciate.  That might sound woo, but it's not. This “want” is biologically wired into you as a member of the human species. It wants to feel free to love the self that you are, and to incorporate others into that love as well (oh so challenging sometimes, I know).  So, thoughts and attitudes of judgment and hatred and blame - whether directed towards yourself or another - they feel oppressive to the heart.  But thoughts and attitudes of appreciation, well, they’re the antidote to all the ways we’ve shut down and cut ourselves off from our ability to connect with others.