Welcome to the Bold as Love podcast! The podcast all about Liberation from our past through education, embodiment & awareness.

Hey mama, I’m Karine, your host of the (weekly) Bold as Love podcast. I’m a somatic educator, embodiment specialist, researcher, anthropologist, contemplative practices practitioner and teacher, and most of all I love to share ideas that help others realize just how much power they actually have to shape their own lives. And I hope you’ll find something empowering and perspective-shifting in these episodes for you!

This pod has been a long time in the making, I have to tell you. Maybe 43 years? Seriously, though, this is a podcast with a mission at heart to speak straight to the hearts of women and mothers who are curious and open and interested in new ideas and perspectives on motherhood and parenting.

If I manage to help another woman wake up just a little bit more to her own life, then I’m thankful.

Join my Facebook group here if you’d like to help start a community of women walking this path together (I’d love to know who you are!)

Subscribe via the links below or just search for "The Bold as Love Podcast" or “Karine Bell” (and it should come up!):

Are you new to the Bold as Love podcast? Start with my intro episode here!

Or here (cause I’m having a lot of fun playing around with different links! Look how cool this is!)

Oh yeah, and if you have questions, comments or stories to share - send them to me here!

And if we haven’t connected already on the social, come find me!

Beyond the Books (trusting self)

Beyond the Books (trusting self)

I'm not dishing out any parenting advice in this episode - but I'm also not against parenting advice and parenting strategies per say - what I am promoting in this episode is a parenting beyond the books approach. You don’t need the outside world to tell you how to parent. When we learn to trust ourselves everything else falls into place.  And when you have reached a place of self-understanding and you’ve learned more about what it means to be a human being in this world through studying your own life; you will come to trust and to know in your bones what each next step; each next response; needs to be.  

Unorthodox Sexual Abuse Prevention

Unorthodox Sexual Abuse Prevention

Statistics for childhood sexual abuse are abysmal, with some stats reporting 1 in 5 girls and 1 in 8 boys under the age of 18 experiencing childhood sexual abuse.  Stats like that are enough to bring on a sense of powerlessness in the face of an epidemic like that; it's little wonder why it's one of the top concerns mothers have. But we are far more powerful than we realize to influence the prevalence of this experience.  I'm on a mission to help women and mothers (and anyone who cares for children) realize just how powerful and influential they actually are to create the kind of environment in which this experience is far less likely to happen. Like all of what we do; it starts with us.  It puts the power back in our hands to act and to act effectively.  Listen until the end of this episode for a special call-out to hear from women and moms like me, who want to know what makes a child vulnerable to this experience and what makes the experience far less likely. 

Emotional Development

Emotional Development

At the heart of what we often struggle with most as mothers is how we can provide for our children something we didn't have as kids. This is not a matter of blame more than it is taking an honest look at our lives and experiences. One area we often struggle most is in how we think about and work with our own emotions. We often either shut down and avoid “difficult” emotions, or we become emotionally volatile or easily triggered; both indicators what we don’t have an equanimous relationship to our own emotions. And we likely didn’t learn how to be with and relate to our emotions in healthy ways. It’s endemic in our culture and so our parents likely didn’t know how either. This imbalanced relationship to emotion can create havoc within us, and until we learn another way of being with emotion, we’ll likely pass on these patterns to our kids.

Self-Regulation (and being a grown up)

Self-Regulation (and being a grown up)

What does it mean to grow up?  This question has driven my own search over many many years to find an answer. It doesn’t have to do with chronological age. To grow up, for me, is to take responsibility for our own well-being in such a way that we can regulate our internal states and emotions. We can learn to have an embodied sense of safety that comes from knowing how to guide ourselves back into balance when we get triggered in life.  This happens automatically for a child who experiences co-regulation (when a parent helps a child regulate their stress responses and emotions), but for so many of us, that didn't happen.  Our own ability to help our children depends a lot on our ability to do this for ourselves. And it's never too late to learn. 

I have a couple of practical resources to share with you today as well. You can find them here!

The Revolution in Relationship

The Revolution in Relationship

An episode about the revolutionary power of someone's belief in us, and the world of possibility it opens up.  We often struggle to connect with our creativity and imagination around how we can experience life. If you've ever had the isolating experience of depression or anxiety, you know how the kind and compassionate attention of another person can resurrect us from the depths of that experience.  And when they relate to us in ways we've never experienced, and see in us things we've never seen, a radically new path can start to unfold beneath our feet.  The people who believe in us, and who can help us see things in ourselves we've never seen, and who can teach us to love and to trust ourselves as we've never been taught to do, they are true a GIFT to this world. This episode contains a personal story about someone who revolutionized my way of being in the world.  

Depression (part I)

Depression (part I)

Depression affects the lives of over 300 million people worldwide, according to World Health Organization stats.  What's ROCKED me more recently is just how many women and mothers I work with, and also friends of mine, struggle with depression (diagnosed). Depression has been linked to our gut health, and it's been linked to inflammation in the body, but the prevailing perspective is that it's a chemical imbalance in the brain and that 40% of the time, it's genetic.  This perspective is being dismantled as our understanding of trauma and the nervous system evolves and as we begin to understand the link between early childhood experiences (traumas) and the later development of mental illness and disease.  This is important learning for us going forward as we explore a new model for thinking about and relating to the experience. 

The Trauma Vortex

The Adverse Childhood Experiences Study (or ACES) has demonstrated an important link between adverse early childhood experiences, early trauma, and life-long mental and physical health problems.  Understanding trauma and its effects has become an important topic of discussion, especially as it relates to health.  Despite having many of the ACES on the list, I avoided using the word trauma because I refused to believe that my early adverse experiences determined how I could experience my life.  But we DO need to acknowledge the weight of the past if we don't want to carry it into our future, but we're also EMPOWERED to become active agents in that process and in our healing. And in the process, do some major trauma chain-breaking as we go!  This is the first in a series on trauma that I'll do.

After you listen to the episode, you can learn more about the topics and people I mention below:

Read more about the ACES study here and here.

Watch pediatrician, Nadine Burke Harris’s Ted talk about the importance of this study here.

Waking up (is our path to freedom/is hard to do)

Waking up is our path to freedom.  Freedom to choose our relationship with ourselves and others.  Freedom to experience our lives in new ways.  Freedom to respond (to our children) in new and different ways. Waking up means to wake up from the unconscious and habitual patterns that keep us locked in automatic ways of being.  Waking up is our path to freedom, but it's not easy to do. 

The promise of neuroscience and neuroplasticity tells us, however, that that change is always - until our least breath - possible.  And though it takes dedication and courage, no singular path (to me) is more worth cultivating.